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My First Blog Post

MY CRIB

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If this is my crib, then it’s my territory, I decide what happens in it. Being independent is not being arrogant, it’s just a simple way of saying i can stand for myself. It doesn’t mean no visitor is allowed in my crib, it only imply that i don’t want to allow fools to fool around with my life and turn ‘ME’ to a big fool. I only want a crib that have boundaries so I can create space for great people, who can add value and meaning to my precious life. After all it’s actually my personal life my beautiful crib. It is meant to be structured personally and not for intruders.

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde.

This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this new blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.

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THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE.

When younger we make various choice’s without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they’re older.
1. Marrying the wrong person
When you’re young, check your motives for marrying. Don’t marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.
2. The opportunities you did not seize
When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you’re older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.
3. The bridges you burned
When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.
4. *The child you aborted*
You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn’t mean you can’t make it in life or you can’t find a man in future.
5. The child you rejected
Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she’s pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you’re 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice
6. The marriage you destroyed
So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.
7. The God you disowned
When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don’t wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don’t be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.
8. The body you messed up
You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you’re consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.
9. The time you wasted
The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.
10. The dreams and talents you shelved
Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don’t give up even if you encounter set backs, don’t give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you’re older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to yourself, “That could have been me”. Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don’t waste years of your life in a field that doesn’t fulfill you.
11 The name you defamed
When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.
12. The wealth you threw away
Are you riding on good money during your productive years? Earning good money? Don’t throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say “I wish I knew better”
13. The good love that got away
Is there that great person in your life loving you good? Don’t push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of “What if I was still with that person?”
14 The parents you despised
When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what do your parent’s know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style. Don’t let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value.
Thanks for reading
To realize
The value of a sister or brother
Ask someone
Who doesn’t have one.
To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
Divorced couple.
To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.
To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.
To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother
Who has given birth to
A premature baby.
To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize
The value of one second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident.
Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when
You can share it with someone special.
To realize the value of a friend or family member:
LOSE ONE.
Do not keep this with you, lt might bring blessings to everyone you pass it to
Remember….
Hold on tight to the ones you love!

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What to drink when you don’t drink alcohol

Hello readers, hope you’re staying safe. It’s Ramadan period, it’s part of our pillars as a Muslim. I am using this medium to say Ramadan Kareem to all Muslims out there. So, I found this interesting post of a friend here on WordPress. I think you need to go through if you’re always feeling odd among family and friends when they take alcoholic drinks you don’t take. Check Amy and olivia’s post through this link. https://wp.me/pbJTTu-aj. I hope you find it interesting.

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The trending solace

Some abandoned you
Many misuse you
Youngsters abuse your purpose
Yet I want to say you’re Indispensable
Few know this
Never mind cos many values you
Some get addicted to the fun
Few loud your Valoir

Old acquaintances will hail
They get their rendez-vous in you
I appreciate you for hosting this moment de solitude.
But, get ready for some will soon desert you.
It’s surer this einsame Momente will soon be Über .

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My wish while wallowing in regrets.

I wish I could travel back in time. There are lots of things I will like to amend if permitted. I have attained a stage in life where most time I wish I can reverse a lot of incidents and make the most of it now that I am more matured and exposed to the realities of life

I wish I have the power to live as a teenager again. Those year’s you act as though you’re matured enough to take decisions without considering those intertwined by your reaction. I wish I can go back to the innocent days where worries are less.

Though these regrets are not conferred on anyone, but rather the consequences of somethings I wish I had done better than the ways I performed.

Now, expectations are high, responsibilities are piling up and yet life is still worth living. We’re trying to be fine despite all regrets mixed with disappointment.

Now I have decided to stop wishing but rather live the moment to avoid further regrets in the next phase of life. Those regrets are only weighing me down.

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Memes and Liebster Award!!!

Hi everyone, I’ve dedicated Friday for memes, so here they are:

Now about the award . I feel so happy when people nominate me for an award, it always mean so much to me. Liebster in German means sweetest, kindest, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, and welcome. All these meanings are significant.
I will like to appreciate Silver Stone for nominating me for this award🏆, I must say his blog posts are worth spending time with. You can check up his blog by Clicking here . It is filled with amazing posts you will enjoy. Here are the rules of the beautiful award. Rules:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you, and give a link to the blog
  • Answer the 11 questions given to you
  • Share 11 facts about yourself
  • Nominate between 5-11 other bloggers.
  • Ask your nominees 11 questions
  • Notify your nominees once you’ve uploaded your post

Answers to Silver Stone’s questions

  • What was the one song that got stuck in your head?                     The one song that got stuck in my he is Tatiana Manois’ “like you”, it’s an inspirational song that I love so much.
  • Tea, coffee or hot chocolate? Take your pick and state your favourite flavour(if you’ve not chosen hot chocolate). It’s black coffee
  • What’s the one thing that reminds you of school? Extra curricula activities and my friends, I miss them so much.
  • 2 positive and 2 negative things about yourself?                                Two positive things about me are: I am an optimist and I like motivating people while the two negative things about me are: I don’t check on friends and I forget things easily.
  • Would you rather have the ability to control the weather, or have the ability to talk to animals? I would love to control the weather if possible to suit the situation I am in.
  • What inspired you to start blogging? The singular that motivated me is writing. When I idea comes to me I always want to share with people.
  • What’s the best book you’ve read? I read different types of books but my best book as a French student is Fatou Diome le ventre de Atlantique and Ben Carson Gifted Hands.
  • Name the celebrity you admire and the one celebrity you dislike. I admire Harris J an Islamic musician though there are others I admire depending on the genre like Beyonce, I don’t dislike any I can only dislike a track.
  • If you could time travel, where would you go? I will travel back to my teenage years
  • What’s your favourite holiday? Summer
  • Are you a talker or a listener? Both, depending on the situation a
  • I speak French and German though my German is not fluent
  • I love crazy things like dancing in public
  • I have a baby girl too
  • I’m a Nigerian
  • I love listening to music
  • Teaching is one thing I can’t do without
  • I am an ambivert
  • I am confused about what to do for my master’s degree
  • I don’t have a best food
  • My favourite color is blue( all shades)

Here are my nominees!

Questions to my nominees

  1. What do you do when you’re frustrated?
  2. What is your most challenging moment?
  3. If have to choose another planet, which will you prefer?
  4. What’s your best fashion label?
  5. Which do you prefer: Thriller, romance or adventure movies?
  6. Which do you prefer calling or texting?
  7. If you have the opportunity of going back in time, what would you change about your past?
  8. What bad habit are you desperate to change?
  9. What is friendship to you?
  10. Politician or activist which would you rather become?
  11. What’s the best book you will like to read again?

So that’s all I have for you, don’t forget to stay safe.

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The wave of the Blue


Sitting beside the Blue refreshing.

When the waves rumbles.

Making this moment exciting.

Exploring comfort in your view has

kept me brilliant.

Though it is temporary, wish my stay

continues.

But, the hit of your waves,

slams and ache my body.

This restriction disappoints.

It disrupts my exciting moments,

though I hope this ends quickly, and

bring back mon moment de

réflexion mit the Blue.

Modest

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Doing away with bad attitudes.

Food is an essential necessity of every living thing. Lack of essential nutrients we derive from food in the body destabilize the system thereby causing inactivity.

If you have two children, you feed one more than the other, definitely, when you give them a task to execute, I believe the child that is well-fed will perform the task faster and better i.e he/she will be active than the other.

Permit me to compare the above illustration with a good mindset and a bad one. Naturally, we tend to think negatively and positively. In some instances, one does overthrow the other. The question is, how does one allow the good thoughts to overthrow the bad one? How does one eliminate the bad thought?

This can only be achieved when you starve the bad one thereby rendering it inactive. By starving I mean, don’t create an avenue for the bad thought to oust the good one.

According to Dr Maxwell Maltz, a plastic surgeon in the 1950s discovers that it takes not less than 21days for his patients to get adapted to any changes made in their body. I have tried to also practice to get used to attitude with constant practice and I noticed after 3weeks I almost get use to it if not totally.

Consequently, when we intend to stop an attitude we need to starve that attitude by avoiding it as best as possible. This will weaken the strength of the attitude because they are not developed in a day.

Don’t forget, a bad attitude is like a deflated tyre, you’re going nowhere with it. Choose the best of your attitudes and keep feeding it with constant practice.

I hope this helps.

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Life and Style Thoughts

While staying safe

Let me share these quotes with you.

Your lifestyle is a reflection of the real person you choose to be, so live for yourself.Modest

Modest

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Hi everyone, just want to drop this here open for criticism, though this just came to mind with the situation of things surrounding me. Still learning.

Mr World Famous

Striking all over the land. Making all tremble in fear. Disrupting schedule with its presence. Excavating the infidelity of relationships. Aiding and abetting the lazy ones. Great opportunity for the diligent. Revealing the real supporters.

The poor are in confusion. Hunger strike with no antidote. When the antidote is in the mouth of the shark 🦈 The fear of the dreadful obstruct their track. Rumours among the confused

The rich in their haven. Dwelling in luxury. Supplies in their storage. No cause for alarm, Their avarice has cursed them

Yet everyone relies on the Transformer Whose service is diverted to a fuse Instead of several Monitored by monsters, who owns all current

Little did I wonder, they are bunch of animals with no feelings. The feelings of the goat are though better. Now they preach self-responsibility. Really!!!

Responsibility has been long adapted But with you, it is long deceased When extortion and deceit run through thy veins.

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The blogger recognition award.

Hi everyone, trust you’re using your stay home productively. It’s the best way to maximize this holiday.

Now on the award, I want to appreciate science_girrrrrl for nominating me for the blogger recognition award. If you’ve not visited her blog @ https://juniorblogs.science. Visit her blog to read wonderful articles about science. To her, every problem starts with the government defying the scientist.

What are the award’s rules?

1. Thank the blogger(s) who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
2. Write a post to show your award.
3. Give a brief story of how your blog started.
4. Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
5. Select up to fifteen bloggers you want to give this award to.
6. Comment (or pingback) on each blog to let them know that you’ve nominated them and provide a link to the post you’ve created.

How did I start blogging?

September, 5th 2019 was my first day of blogging. Part of the requirement of my country is a compulsory 1year national youth service program. While in Akure Ondo state capital in Nigeria for my youth service program, I become idle and I don’t like the fact that I am idle during the holidays apart from the community development service, so I decided to write about things that come to my mind that I feel it’s reasonable. With this view, I made up my mind to write about my thoughts.

At first, I felt I ‘m just writing to keep myself busy but later realized there’s more to write after my youth service year.

My token to new bloggers: advice…

  1. Successful bloggers worked hard to get there, so keep writing and don’t be discouraged. Don’t stop trying hard work doesn’t kill.
  2. It’s a give and take world, try to visit other blogs and follow. Everyone is unique in their way “be original” reblog and giving is better don’t plagiarize.

My nominees

  1. PoojaG
  2. Vikas karmani
  3. Sweetandbittergreens.com
  4. Akshay Lyer
  5. Priya MK
  6. Ava Tripathy
  7. Shanty Salty
  8. The Godly chic Diaries
  9. Chris Nicholas
  10. Palmtreesandloyalties

Stay home, stay safe, take responsibility.